Articles

“Let me introduce you to someone like you guys”, said a colleague who met my client on his way home. “Who? Human beings,” responded my client to his colleague. They both laughed and continued their usual banter but, my client could never let go of the inference in that conversation. He kept playing it in […]

There are many who would believe that past lives and rebirths exist and, many who don’t. I am not here to convince you of either because it is a matter of one’s faith and belief and I am no-one to question them, but I am here to narrate a first-hand experience, and how it may […]

How do you feel when you dive into your memories from childhood?Guilty and embarrassed How do you feel your relationships are at this moment of time?Less intimate What is it that you do, to forget all the hurt and bad memories?Addicted to drugs, food, or alcohol The list can go on and on, but all […]

What do clients often look for when they are searching for a therapist, especially a mental health therapist: ·       One whose appointments are easily available; ·       Who can answer all your questions; ·       One who is very knowledgeable; ·       Does not charge exorbitant fees; ·       Has answers to all your questions.   These days all these requirements are met by […]

How do you feel when you walk out of your manager & office, after a meeting or a performance review? Empowered and Motivated! …or Disempowered and Demotivated? If you feel empowered and motivated, you have an excellent manager, but, if you feel disempowered & demotivated, then you are dealing with a “ruthless manager”. It is probably, in […]

Transactional analysis is a model of human interactions, which was first developed by Dr. Eric Berne in 1960. This model is based on 2 principles: a) Our personality is made of 3 parts or ego states i) Parent ii) Adult iii) Child b) These parts or ego states interact with each-other in transactions The 3 ego states: Each […]

How do you feel when you post your picture in either bikini or in underwear on social media? Empowered or disempowered? Liked or disliked? Embarrassed or appreciated? Compared and complimented, or compared and criticised? Followed or unfollowed? Popular or unpopular? If you go through any of the above feelings or emotions, then this article is […]

You are having a secret affair! Yes, you heard it right! These days we all are having a secret affair and it is absolutely true! If I happen to ask each one of you, what are the qualities that you are looking for in your partner? What would your answer be? Someone who: is intimate […]

The title may sound more like an achievement, but the focus of today’s blog is on the following: Have you ever noticed your name scribbled on a toilet wall or seat? Have you ever been called names on these walls? Have you ever been tagged? – making you uncomfortable socially? Does that graffiti involve trolling, […]

How do you feel when you’ve arrived back home after work: empowered or disempowered? Do you avoid conversations or interactions with your boss? Do you dread going to work to avoid any interactions with your boss? Do you spend more time worrying about how your boss might react to your work, rather than spending quality […]

As per Beyond Blue data, 1 in 16 people in Australia are currently experiencing depression. Those aged 16 to 24 years of age, are reported to be the most seriously affected. That is around 180,000 young Australians! Sounds worrisome. What is true for Australia, is equally true for Sydney! Each one of us has experienced […]

Addiction is developing dependence on a chemical substance physically and emotionally. Addicts believe that they are incapable of functioning without their addictive substance, to such an extent that their life is unimaginable without using it. The commonest form of addiction that currently exists in society apart from smoking are Alcohol and Drug use. An addict […]

Addiction is developing dependence on a chemical substance physically and emotionally. Addicts believe that they are incapable of functioning without their addictive substance, to such an extent that their life is unimaginable without using it. The commonest form of addiction that currently exists in society apart from smoking are Alcohol and Drug use. An addict […]

‘If you want something go and get it’ or ‘If you want something, wait and it will come to you’. Which of these resonates most with you? ‘If you want something go and get it,’ relates more to a person with Physical sexual personality and ‘If you want something, wait and it will come to […]

“If you don’t take my call, I will jump from the balcony.” These words left me in a state of shock and a feeling of having been threatened. I know these threats come from a deep-seated feeling of helplessness and self-doubt. Although, studies on the subject claim that many people who talk about committing suicide, […]

You are having a secret affair! Yes, you heard it right! These days we all are having a secret affair and it is absolutely true! If I happen to ask each one of you, what are the qualities that you are looking for in your partner? What would your answer be? Someone who: is intimate […]

Are you in a toxic relationship? Is your boss a bully? Are your colleagues jealous? Have your friends disappeared at your hour of need? Is any of this making your life sad, depressing and lonely? If it is, then I would highly commend you read further. I am not going to tell you that these […]

One of my clients has often complained to me, about frequently feeling overworked and exhausted, managing her household chores. She is a mother of three children and a homemaker. Her daily schedule included: making breakfast to suit everybody’s needs, packing lunches, doing the laundry, cleaning the house, ironing the clean clothes, making dinner and cleaning […]

Is there an episode in your life’s timeline, which you have kept private, and never shared or discussed it with anyone? Is keeping that secret a bother to you? Does holding that lid shut, disrupt your everyday life? If the answer is yes to all the above questions, then you are definitely burdened with a […]

Many of us come across people in our daily life who are critical. They come in varied relationships, and may be those whom we communicate with sometimes, or, on a daily basis. They could be our parents, partner, boss, colleagues or teachers. I call them ‘The Faultfinders.’ Though perhaps they sound like superheroes, they are […]

Does your personality show the following characters? Condescending Judgmental Overbearing Dominating conversations Bossing peers or other people around Giving advice, especially when not asked Arguing, when conversations don’t go your way Listening to other people’s discussions and interrupting them, without excusing yourself Then you are suffering from one of the most annoying qualities, called: ‘I […]

Endogenous depression is a complex mental health condition characterized by a persistent and pervasive feeling of sadness, hopelessness, and a lack of interest in activities. Unlike reactive depression, which is triggered by external events, endogenous depression is thought to arise from internal factors such as genetics, neurochemical imbalances, and physiological abnormalities. While traditional treatment methods […]

When parents disown their queer children, it creates a deep emotional void, leaving both parties in distress. Such rejection can have long-lasting impacts on the mental and emotional well-being of the individual. However, there is hope for healing and reconciliation. Hypnotherapy, a powerful therapeutic tool, can play a significant role in managing the aftermath of […]

Sleep paralysis is a baffling phenomenon that affects many individuals around the world. It is a temporary condition where a person is unable to move or speak while falling asleep or waking up, often accompanied by vivid hallucinations. This article explores the causes, symptoms, and potential management of sleep paralysis, with a specific focus on […]

In a world that continues to make strides towards acceptance and inclusion, many queer individuals still find themselves locked in a metaphorical closet, concealing their true selves from the world. While significant progress has been made in recent years in recognizing and respecting the rights and identities of the LGBTQ+ community, the closet remains a […]

The modern workplace is a dynamic environment where people from diverse backgrounds come together to achieve common goals. Amidst this collaboration, it’s not uncommon for personal emotions to intertwine with professional interactions. One of the most delicate situations to handle is having a crush on a colleague. Dealing with a workplace crush professionally requires finesse, […]

Every year, on the second Thursday of September, Australia observes the R U OK? Day. This significant day serves as a poignant reminder of the crucial role we all play in checking in on the well-being of those around us, particularly at the workplace. It’s an occasion dedicated to initiating conversations that can genuinely impact […]

Work is a significant part of your life, consuming a substantial portion of your waking hours. Ideally, it’s a place where you feel valued, respected, and safe. However, for some, the workplace can become a battleground of bullying and harassment, leading to low self-esteem and anxiety causing you to feel lonely and dejected.   Understanding […]

In the complex world of office dynamics, there are moments when you might feel like the spotlight is uncomfortably focused on you. You’ve probably asked yourself, “Why am I being singled out at work?” It’s a question that can stir feelings of self-doubt and frustration. Let’s explore the various reasons why this might happen to […]

It is a really upsetting experience if your boss yells at you. I empathise with you. First and foremost, you do not need to take it upon yourself. Yelling, a form of aggressive communication, can create discomfort and a toxic atmosphere within the workplace making you think, ‘Can a boss be fired for yelling?’. This […]

The simple answer to the question – How do I come out at work? – is: You don’t need to, at least not upfront. It really doesn’t matter what your sexuality is to a coworker, whether they’re straight or not, unless you want them to know. When you make up your mind to come out […]

If you’ve been treated by your coworker rudely, disrespectfully or in an abusive manner you might be feeling annoyed, hurt or helpless. You might be wondering how to deal with such a person and how to protect yourself from further harm. In this article, we will explore some possible circumstances, causes and actions that you […]

Is it necessary to feel indebted to your parents? The answer is, a resounding ‘No’. You do not need to feel this way. There can be several reasons why you feel so. Your parents can make you feel this way. The society you thrive in can put you in such situations or maybe it is […]

At workplaces, emotional abuse can take several different forms, such as bullying, harassment, verbal insults, intimidation, gaslighting and scapegoating. Its negative impacts can be long-lasting and emotionally challenging.    Such behaviours are typically perpetuated by workplace bullies and abrasive leaders who exert their power to demean, control and manipulate their subordinates.   In many cases, […]

The answer to this question is very simple. You don’t! You don’t need to deal with them as you have got nothing to do with them. Ignore them like they do not exist and half of your problems will be solved. The most important thing to remember here is that they are your co-workers, not […]